Topic about female empowerment has been on my mind at least a year now.
On the day to day basis I love listening to podcasts and/or watching motivating videos on YouTube. They help me a lot to change my dark thoughts and laziness and turn them into constant motivation. I realize that everybody like different things and topics. Of course we are all subjective personas, and what I like, you might not be fond of. But if you are reading this and need a little bit of kick, in order to feel empowered, today I am going to share with you my personal TOP 10 of female empowerment talks. If you are aspiring for greater things, I promise you, those ladies WILL inspire you to get out of your comfort zone!
1. Teach girls bravery, not perfection – Reshma Saujani
Who is she: Reshma is an American Lawyer. She run for congress when she was 33. Reshma said that despite not getting in, and losing $1.3 because of the campaign, she didn’t see it as a failure – but a lesson. She founded organization called “Girls Who Code” in 2012. Her goal is to teach at leats 1 million women how to code.
What is this Ted Talk about: First Ted Talk I watched about female empowerment. Needless to say, that I was very much inspired by Saujani Ted Talk. In the beginning she mentions about something that in the eyes of public would be embarassing failure. But there is nothing in her that indicated that she is ashamed of it. She mentions is more of a life lesson for her, that helped her notice things that need to be done. In this Ted Talk Reshma explains the difference between men and women. She is underlying that men tend to take more risks than women. Why? Because this world is raising small girls to be perfect, and boys to be brave. With this in mind, we as women, according to Saujani, lack bravery. That doesn’t mean we are not able to achieve it. We aspire to be perfect. As a result we don’t give ourselves a credit for things that we have done but are not perfect. Apparently according to a study, more smarter girls (with higher IQ), were more likely to give up when faced new challenge.
Overall this Female Empowerment Ted Talk opens eyes, that we should strive to be brave and encourage other women to feel courageous. Rather than perfect.
Best quotes of this Ted Talk:
“Most girls are taught to avoid risk and failure. They are taught to play it safe”
“We should be brave instead of perfect”
“Embracing failure is the most important trait I’ve developed (…). It has made me stronger, more confident and more resilient”
2. What happens when women stop believing lies – mina shah
Who is she: Mina Shah is a speaker and strategic motivational coach. She is very professional and her insights to human psychology are (I would say) on point. I couldn’t find her website, but if you would like to hear more about her history, she briefly mentions it in her Ted Talk.
What is this Ted Talk about: This Talk is very much about Female Empowerment. It’s very insightful about motives, why people lie, and what kind of lies we are being fed with. I need to admit, that in the end of this speech, I almost had tears in my eyes. Every emotional story that is somehow close to me, has this effect on me. Mina encovers so many truths, that we as women need to hear. 80% of things done – is GOOD ENOUGH, we are GOOD ENOUGH. We have been trapped for too long in cages of all kinds of responsibilities. Mostly we have been trapped in cage of expectations. This talk definitely helped me recognizing the fact that I need to set myself free. And then help others to do the same.
“I can’t wait around for other people to decide my life for me”
“When you stop believing lies, you get to embrace the truth”
3. How to gain control of your free time – laura vanderkam
Who is she: Laura is a speaker and writer focusing on life and time management. She also focuses on career development and has been featured authors in many publications like New York Times and others.
What is this Ted Talk about: I am absolutely not surprised this Ted Talk has more than 5 million of views on YouTube! It is truly amazing. And by amazing I mean I am enchanted by it. Laura says simple truth, that you knew deep inside but never said that to yourself at loud. This speech is about finding time. Laura breaks down how can you use time that is given to you. She shows that there is always a time for what matters the most. I fully agree with that. How many times I have been saying to myself that I don’t have time to work out, clean the windows or do any other chores? Countless times! With Vanderkam’s opinion, we don’t do things, because at that particular moment is not our priority. She is doing excellent job in female’s empowering, by giving examples of womens lives how we unconditionally prioritized what we do and not do. This talk is truly insightful and one of my favourites so far!
“We don’t build the lives we want by savng time. We build the lives we want and the time saves itself”
“Every minute I spend, is my choice”
4. 3 lessons on success from an Arab businesswoman – Leila Hoteit
Who is she: Leila is a businesswoman with Phd in engineering. She is now a managing director of BCG that is based in Dubai. She is an expert of human capital, including women, female empowerment.
What is this Ted Talk about: Lessons that Leila is teaching us are very valuable not only in Arab World. She focuses on how to be resilient, brave and true to yourself in the world ‘where men rule’. In the country where she is from (Lebanon) she says her generation have had to create their own role models. For instance, she decided to become one for her children. What actually impresses me much is that she not only focuses on her success, but success of her other cooworkers. Furthermore she thinks that we should join forces and don’t compete agains each other. I believe that’s the case not only in professional matter but in our personal lives too. In addition, I feel like this Ted Talk is one of the most empowering ones. In fact I would love to achieve the level of professional confidence Leila has.
“Be happy, it drives people crazy”
“Other’s negativity is their own issue”
“Success is the best revenge”
5. How changing your story can change your life – lori gottlieb
Who is she: Lori is an American writer, speaker and therapist. She likes to describes herself as ‘editor’ of people’s wrong stories about themself. Very compassionate psychotherapist, she writes for New York Times where she has regular column.
What is this Ted Talk about: Oh my! It was very interesting Ted Talk! I mean it, I couldn’t stop watching it (and I usually do stop Ted Talks to make some notes). Lori has talent to speak and to be listened. This speech might inspire you to change your story that you keep saying to yourself. You might feel trapped or imprisoned in your life (whether it’s in relationship, career or responsibilites), but that’s just one part of the story. As a matter of fact, Lori tells you that we all have a choice. To change how we look at things, to change narrative and let go of the story that doesn’t serve you well. What I liked the most was how honest and real she was in her talk. She recognized that there are people in the world who are so called “help – rejecting complainers”. Most probably we all know at least one person like that. We should be compassionate, but at the same time to remember that each one of us is wanting a connection with one another.
“Stories are the way we make sense of our lives”
“The way we narrate our lives, shapes what they become”
6. Ending the pursuit of perfection – iskra lawrence
Who is she: Iskra is British Model. She teaches about body diversity and importance of self love and self care. Moreover, she is a Brand Ambassador for NEDA (National Eating Disorders Association).
What is this Ted Talk about: To be honest with you that was the quickest 15 minutes of my life! I absolutely loved it. Iskra (in Polish it means Spark!), has so much charisma and passion about what she believes in. In addition and she does talk a lot about redifining beauty ideals, and importance of educating all people about their body image. She highlights that social media doesn’t help much, and that it can be a destructive power if not used well. Iskra encourages all of us to invest in ourselves, start caring more. Her Mirror Challenge and Gratitude List is something that I am taking away from this Ted talk which was 100% about not only female empowerement, but empowerement for all people no matter age, race or size.
“We need to stop trying to attain perfection, because we are good enough already”
“The bullies are just putting their insecurities that they have onto you”
7. Your body language may shape who you are – amy cuddy
Who is she: Amy is social psychologist, that teaches at business school. Moreover, she shares her passion about non verbal expressions on social media platforms. Also she is famuous for her research about body language and so called ‘power posing’.
What is this Ted Talk about: Body language is one of my favorite topics. It always fascinated me how we can influence our feelings and thoughts simply based on how we pose our body. With this in mind, wtaching this speech was pure treat. Amy shows multiple examles of power poses, and poses that we do when we don’t feel confident. To emphasize how serious it might be, she has done research of how people’s hormones are reacting depending on the posture. And it did reflect her theory! As a result she proved that faking till you make it theory works. So if you have friends that need to hear this, share it with them. Because just 2 minutes of projecting higher power poses CAN change how your body responds.
“Our bodies change our minds, and our minds can change our behaviour, and our behaviour changes our outcome.”
“Fake it till you BECOME it”
8. why we have too few women leaders – sheryl sandberg
Who is she: Sheryl is definition of female empowerment in my opinion. Incredibly inspiring American author, executive and billionaire. She is the COO (Chief Operating Officer) of Facebook. Before working for Facebook, Sandberg worked for Google. She is one of 100 Most Influential People according to Time.
What is this Ted Talk about: This Ted Talk is a truth bomb. Sheryl tells what she thinks and she tells it straight away. Notably she empowers women to reach for that promotion, and not sit in the corner of the room. Moreover, if you are a mum, majority of this speech is directed to you. To not give up or make decision about leaning back from career to early. We – women CAN and WILL make a difference and believe more in equality. In other words, we are here to support each other, to empower fellow females!
“Own your own success”
“Success and likeability are positively correlated for men, and negatively for women”
9. why we need introverted leaders – angela hucles
Who is she: Angela is a professional soccer player. She was part of the Soccer Team who represented US in Olympic Games in 2008 and scored Gold Medal. Now Hucles is International Speaker that teaches about equality and leadership.
What is this Ted Talk about: In the first place I didn’t expect that Angela is an introvert! But she says she is. I can identify with her talk, as I am the same. Angela tells starts her story about female empowerment by how she learnt how to be a leader. Moreover she encourages each one of us to empower ourselves, to keep creating spaces to perform our best. Equally, she believes that blend of both: extroverts and introverts is ideal. We each have different advantages that can support others.
” We as introvert can still maintain a very strong will”
“If we continue to fill 96% of all our leadership positions (extroverts) with only half of the population, are we truly operating at our best potential?”
10. trust your struggle – zain asher
Who is she: Zain in an Anchor for CNN International. She had multiple jobs before but the one she mentions in this Ted Talk is Receptionist job (I can relate to it as I was once receptionist too!)
What is this Ted Talk about: I had a feeling that I was listening to this Ted Talk before. But I gave it another shot as was determined to remember what was Zain’s story about. I am glad I did! This Ted Talk is very powerful: speaks about the fact that not only hard work helps you to achieve success. In fact Zain says that she doesn’t believe in competing, but helping others to create their success. For this reason her mantra is The more you give the more you receive. But she doesn’t do it in order to get things.
“In order to be successful, I don’t believe that I need to take anything away from anyone else”
“Success comes, when opportunity meets preparation”
To sum up, let this post to be a reminder that we are not lonely islands in this world. Surely, we are here to support each other. That is to say empower, empower empower those – who feel like they don’t have control over their lives. Female empowerment is incredibly important these days.
I hope this post was somehow useful for you and you took some inspiration out of it! With this in mind, I would love to say huge thank you to those who read to this point, it means a lot!
For now, until the next time!